ML25 – A Ski Accident Left Steve Lawton Nearly Dead, But Full of Positivity

After a life-threatening ski accident in Colorado, doctors weren’t sure Steve H. Lawton would survive, but because of his attitude, his helmet, and a rubber chicken named Henrietta, he lives to share the wonders of positivity.

Steve holds a Masters degree in Mechanical Engineering from Texas A&M and an MBA from St. Edward’s University. Plus, 27 years of business experience in roles like: engineer in the Astronaut office at NASA an executive at Dell and TEDx Speaker.

Steve is the author of “Head First! A Crash Course in Positivity,” a story about how his attitude literally saved his life after the skiing accident. As well as practical advice on how to create a positive mindset, lead with positivity, and achieve better outcomes for individuals and organizations.

And if all that isn’t enough, Steve and his lovely wife Deanna have 26 years of marriage and 2 teenagers

Steve Lawton Henrietta

Episode Summary: A Ski Accident Left Steve Lawton Nearly Dead, But Full of Positivity

ML24 – Disrupt Yourself & Surf The S Curve with Whitney Johnson

4 questions to discover if you are on the right curve

Whitney Johnson is the author of this month’s bookclub book Disrupt Yourself: Putting the Power of Disruptive Innovation to Work is the perfect book for us to deep dive into as business owners and leaders. Because it gives us permission- and not just permission- it actually encourages us to break the norm and build our own success curve. To be disruptive.

Whitney is one of the world’s most influential management thinkers, according to Thinkers50, and she is a podcast host- The Disrupt Yourself podcast.

Whitney Johnson

Elite Achievement Academy

Episode Summary: Disrupt Yourself & Surf The S Curve with Whitney Johnson

ML23 – Survival Tips with Jonathan David Lewis

Is Your Brand Wandering in The Wild?

Jonathan David Lewis is the author of the brand new, on the shelves now, book Brand vs. Wild: Building Resilient Brands for Harsh Business Environments. He is a partner and strategy director at McKee Wallwork + Company, a firm recognized by Advertising Age as a national leader in branding and marketing. McKee Wallwork + Company has won the Southwest Small Agency of the Year, national B2B Campaign of the Year, and national Best Places to Work awards.

On top of all that- Jonathan is an engaging and authoritative speaker on shaping a brand that can survive—and thrive—in today’s tough, uncertain world.

Jonathan David Lewis

 

Episode Summary: Is Your Brand Wandering in The Wild?

Survival Tips with Jonathan David Lewis

3 Leadership Lessons Taught by Mr Miyagi

Why it is crucial to find the right coach

Mr Miyagi

When I was six, Columbia Pictures released the original Karate Kid movie. I loved it, and used my newly learned karate skills to punish the neighbors fence. (oops!)

I now have a six- year-old. The Karate Kid has been on my mind this week. (yikes)

I started playing hockey my freshman year high school. I was terrible. I could barely stand. I spent more time crashing over the boards than celebrating goals. I can’t even remember my first goal, probably an accidental redirection off my stick, between my legs.

But I do remember my first coach. Bill Miller. He was a great guy. Loved hockey, loved the thrill of victory, but mostly loved seeing the development of hockey players.

Say “No” with Respect

11 Steps to Softening the “No”

Say No with Respect

My phone rings and I frown. “Not him!” Does this ever happen to you? True story, this just happened to me. I couldn’t figure out why I was feeling the way that I was. I like the caller, we get along very well and have a lot of similar interests, but for some reason, I felt an urge to not pick up the phone. How do you say “no” with respect?

In retrospect, it wasn’t him, it was his requests. Every time we talk he has something he “needs” my help on. And because I like and respect him, I have a hard time (ok impossible time) saying “no”; everything from relationship advice and moving furniture to last minute rides and finishing projects at work.

Boundaries are tricky aren’t they?

Even when you determine that saying “no” is the right decision, it still requires actually saying “no”. How do we make saying “no” a little bit easier?

Say No with Respect

11 steps to softening the “no”:

  1. Get to know your “yes”- Before you can get really good at declining offers you need to understand what you want to say “yes” to. What are the things in your life that take priority and then say “yes” to those first. Otherwise you may end up saying “no” them by default.
  2. Practice- The first time you say “no” you may find it difficult, but as you work on it and gain more experience it will become easier. Start with small inconsequential requests and move on to larger requests as you develop.
  3. Listen to the request fully and respectfully- Give the person making the request the opportunity to fully articulate the need.
  4. Pause before responding to any request- Take a few moments to think about what is being asked and evaluate it against your other commitments and responsibilities. Determine if it is a “should” or a “could”. I have a friend who never agrees to anything immediately when asked. Her response is always “let me check on a few things and get back to you”. This gives her the opportunity to fully vet each request and when she does accept a request she is fully committed.
  5. Simply say “no” (or as simply as possible)- When you determine that you cannot accept a request respond with a clear decline. Do not try to soften the response by being vague or cryptic. Either you can or you cannot do what is requested.
  6. Recognize your time is your time and it is valuable- Each request is taking something from you, your time, and that has value to it. Know your priorities and what you can realistically accept.
  7. When appropriate give a brief reason for declining- It is important to be honest and when appropriate you can share why you are unable to accept the request. People will respect your directness.
  8. But don’t feel obligated to explain- You are in control of your life and your reasons for declining are your own. You do not need to justify or be confrontational when you decline.
  9. Script it out- When you know a specific unrealistic request is coming you can prepare by writing out a response ahead of time. Or you can respond to a request through email or text which will give you a chance to fine tune and wordsmith your response.
  10. Have alternatives- A great way to decline a request is to couple that “no” with alternative options. Maybe you cannot help but could Sally?
  11. Finally, stay firm- Once you have made a decision stand your ground and stay committed. A good decision made after deliberation shouldn’t be changed in the heat of the moment.

Whatever steps you choose and use know that you are making a decision for yourself to prioritize what is important to you. Nobody has control or power over that. Say “no”…firmly, frequently and with respect.

I Never Reached My Goal Because of Fireworks

9 Strategies to Get Your Goals Back on Track

My Goal Truck in Mud

Do you ever feel like you are just spinning your wheels? You set a goal, you have some big plans, you start down the road and then BAM! Sidetracked, or worse…. stuck.

The mud stuck truck.

A few years back, I went fishing up in Northern Saskatchewan with my dad. I make it sound like I am a big fisherman, I am not. I am terrible, impatient, loud and I bore easily. But a week away from the city would do me well so I went.

The group we went with are of opposite me. They love fishing, rising early, paddling out and sitting in silence for hours. It didn’t take long for me to get bored.

So, I came up with a win-win. I’d take the truck, drive the 50 miles back to town and get some milk and cereal for breakfast. They would sit silently and fish; win-win. So, I took off, on my own, in to town.

I didn’t make it. I got distracted.

Heading down the highway I saw a sign directing me to a firework factory (angels might have been singing in silhouette over the sign). I couldn’t pass it up. So, off I went in search of explosives. As I went deeper into the surrounding forest, I was faced with an adventure; if you define adventure as what you get into when not doing what you’re supposed to.

The trail took a sharp right and headed down the steep side of a hill. A little leftover rain made the road muddy and I slid to the bottom. Hello little stream. Well, it looked little.

As I slid into the stream, my truck, actually my dad’s truck, sunk about a foot deep. I gave it some gas and lost another foot. Out of frustration I gassed it again and found water at the bottom of my doors. I was really in trouble.

Do you ever find yourself in a similar situation in life?

You set a goal: lose weight, get a date, start your business, write a book or close a new deal; then set off towards completion, excited and ready.

But along the way something seemingly better jumps out, pizza, Netflix, karaoke night?

And Bam! Sidetracked and stuck in a stream.

Out of frustration you spin your wheels: buy new workout shoes, buy a book writing class, or rewrite your goals.

Eventually you find yourself stuck, up to your doors, no closer to your goal and lost. You feel alone, cutoff or worse, a failure.

What do you do?

First, recognize what got you off path. Acknowledge. What is your “firework factory”? The reality is, the road to success is loaded with enticing diversions. The road to success is hard, fireworks are awesome and that is how it begins.

The first step to getting, and staying, on track is to know the detours, diversions and temptations. Recognize what obstacles you face.

It continues…

After realizing that spinning my tires was…. well, spinning my tires and getting me more stuck, I had to come up with a plan.

I jumped out into the muddy creek and started digging out each wheel. Why didn’t I call for help? I was way out in the forest in Northern Saskatchewan. It was just me and the chipmunks.

After digging out I stuffed branches, leaves, and grass from the creek back into the holes. I climbed back into the truck, put it in neutral, revved and popped the clutch. I moved about a foot, repeated, and slowly crawled through the creek.

Just as darkness began to settle, covered head to foot in mud, both me and the truck, and exhausted, I reached the solid side and got out.

It was too late, and I was too tired, to head to town so I just returned to the lake and admitted my mistake.

What did I learn and how can you apply it to your goals.

Mud Stuck My Goal Truck

9 strategies to get back on track

  1. Recognize you are off path. The first step always involves admitting to yourself that you have a problem J
  2. You can’t panic: You may be way out of cell range and all alone but you need to keep a handle on it emotionally. It hurts to get off track from your goals. The guilt, the embarrassment, the wasted hours. But panicking does not help, it further hurts.
  3. Hard work: Look, we all get off course, and the further off you get, the harder it is to get back on. If you really want to succeed you must put in the time. And sometimes that means digging out your wheels in the mud and muck. Get back on track with your goals by putting in the time to catch up to where you should be.
  4. Creativity: Stuffing branches and leaves under the tires for traction and then popping the clutch wasn’t in any manual. In fact, most auto folks would recommend against it. But I was desperate, and desperate times call for creative measures; you like how I did that? Look at your goals and what caused you to veer off. Can you think of a creative way to stay excited and get back on track?
  5. Give it some gas: When I pushed the gas pedal, prior to the creative stick stuffing solution, I just sunk deeper. When we get off track and we keep spinning our wheels we get more stuck. But if you employ the strategies of hard work and creative solutions- AND THEN give it some gas. Pop! You are out and back on track.
  6. Never give up: Whether you are stuck in the mud or stuck on a goal you are not a failure and you are not irreversibly off course UNTIL you give up. The first dig, stuff, pop clutch circuit got me a foot, the second a yard and finally after a few tries I was back on course. Your first attempt to reestablish your goal may not work perfectly. KEEP AT IT!!
  7. Get lucky: Luck is not just when preparation meets opportunity. Luck is preparation meeting opportunity, combined with your effort and creativity. When you put in the effort required, luck will be in your favor more time than not. Luck is something we recognize in the rearview. After a little time to reflect we wonder how we did it. We did it because we prepared, we worked hard and the opportunity presented.
  8. Ask for help: We can’t, and shouldn’t, go it alone. Who is your support network? While I would have loved someone to help dig out my truck, the truth is, I had to do that part on my own; so might you. But once I got out I immediately sought the help of my dad, the trucks unhappy owner, to get cleaned up. Allow those in your life that care and want to help, participate in your efforts.
  9. Learn the lesson: Never allow what distracted you initially to distract you ever again. No more firework factories. We have goals to accomplish and lives to impact. Sometimes you win and sometimes you learn.

Along the road to success we will see plenty of distracting diversions. We will get tired, we will question our commitment and wonder why we even thought it possible. But remember, if we got off track, we can get back on. We have the tools and the steps necessary. It doesn’t matter how far off course you feel, there is always an opportunity to learn and return. Dig out your wheels, pop the clutch and let’s go!!

Would you believe this is not the end of my Saskatchewan fishing trip story? How much more can go wrong? Find out in next weeks blog post.

 

Ever Take The Wrong Road?

The 17 Hour Banaue Death Drive

The Wrong Road

Do you ever wonder if you are headed down the wrong path? Not “throwing your life away” kind of wrong path, the “focusing on the wrong priorities in life and business” kind of wrong path.

I’ve been there. I started, and failed at, three businesses in the last ten years. Not one of them caught the fire necessary for sustainability. I wasted a lot of time and money; the time burns me more than the money.

As high achievers, you and I see a need and we start to fill it. Unfortunately, this leads to the society of starters, when we need to be finishers.

The Long Road to Banaue, or as my kids call it, The 17 Hour Death Drive:

As a family, we took a vacation to see the Banaue Rice Terraces in the Philippines; commonly referred to as the 8th Wonder of the World. The place is amazing: 2000-year-old rice terraces carved into the mountains of Ifugao fed by an ancient irrigation system. Stunning sunrises, fog, greenery- just breathtaking.

The terraces are, however, a long way from the Manila airport. Only accessible by car, it takes 8-9 hours without traffic; good luck finding a rental willing to allow their cars up there. Add three more hours for the two-kilometers across Manila commute- yes, two kilometers, three hours, yuck! Plan for 12 hours of one lane, steep, windy driving with chickens scattering about.

We arranged for a room at Tony’s house, he is the best, and set off.

Like goal achievement, you have your desired outcome, you set your course, and enthusiastically take off. But what happens when you realize the course you chose was wrong?

We relied on GPS because we are directionally challenged newbies to Northern Luzon. One map directed to Banaue proper, a second to Tony’s house. When they differed, we followed Tony’s house map. Twelve hours later, pitch black and pouring rain, we came to the pavements end. The road continued in the form of a muddy mess. I tried to walk it, barely.

The hard decision

When this happens on a drive you can turn the car around. When it happens in the drive to your goals, what do you do? The only options are reverse course or push on.

Easier said than done

When we invest time and effort into a project or goal, the pain of realizing that you are on the wrong path can be crushing. As motivation hits an all-time low, you question if it is even worth pursuing.

We had the same decision to make on the road to Banaue. According to the map we were now four hours in the wrong direction. Was Banaue worth it?

Definitely

We turned around, retraced to where the GPS led us astray, and arrived at the Rice Terraces a little after 1:00am. Tony was asleep so we slept a couple hours in the car (slept?). At sunrise, we stood at the upper lookout and watched as the magnificence of Banaue’s 2000-year-old rice terraces came into full view. It took 17 hours but we celebrated arriving.

You will experience disappointment when you realize you followed the wrong course to your dream. But, once you get back on track and ultimately reach your destination, it will be worth it.

The Wrong Road

Three suggestions when you realize you navigated the wrong course to your goal.

  1. Make a decisive decision to succeed. Do not doubt or hesitate. Immediately adjust to the right course.
  2. The route was an error, but you are not a failure. Sometimes you win and sometimes you learn. You did not fail, you just took the scenic route. Do not beat yourself, pick yourself up with confidence and go after your goal.
  3. Reaching your goal will taste super sweet. Anything worthwhile will take effort and demand sacrifice. But when you do reach your goal the result will feel deserved.

Like sunrise over Banaue after a 17 mile death drive.

 

ML17 – Losing My Leadership

9 Ways to Give Up Influence

The CEO of a company I worked for, my first job after law school, did something to destroy all trust and confidence I had in his leadership ability. He refused to stand up and bear the responsibility of his position. He gave up his ability to influence. Be careful that you don’t do the same. Today I discuss the story of my first CEO, his leadership blunder and 9 ways that we give up influence after becoming leaders; losing my leadership.

Losing my leadership

Episode Summary: Losing my leadership | 9 Ways to Give up Influence

Leadership is influence- When we start to lose it, we don’t notice until it is too late.

ML16 – Social Entrepreneur, Successful Founder & Only 27 with Connor Gillivan

Today’s featured guest is Connor Gillivan; a 27 year old serial entrepreneur and published author. After founding his first company in his college dorm room buying and selling text books on Amazon.com, he grew it to over $20 million in sales with a team of over 60 people.

Connor co-founded his second company, FreeeUp, after becoming an expert at hiring and managing remote freelancers. FreeeUp now serves as an online hiring platform where business owners can quickly hire reliable, pre-vetted freelancers from around the world.

Connor Gillivan

 

Episode Summary: Social Entrepreneur, Successful Founder & Only 27 w/ Connor Gillivan

ML15 – 30 Days to Indispensability

The Secret to Being Recognized

I throw out my razor, my toothbrush and my toaster. We live in a culture of dispensability. This culture has crept into our businesses making employees replaceable, diminishing loyalty. How do we become indispensable? Today we talk about the secrets to being recognized for your performance and a 30 day challenge to indispensability.

Indispensability

Elite Achievement Academy

Episode Summary: 30 Days to Indispensability

4 step process to become indispensable: